Are You Asking For What You Want?
In any relationship, there comes a time where you must ask for what you want. Sometimes you ask your customer what they value most in working with you. Sometimes you ask a parent if you’ve done a good job. No matter your age, it feels good to receive. In the game of allowing and receiving, sometimes you realize you never asked. In situations where it’s not obvious and when you finally build the courage within to ask, “Are you proud of me?” or “Did I do a good job?” how often does the response satisfy you? Does that response make you want to achieve more or less? Maybe you never ask. Perhaps there are times when you suppress that courage, unknowingly, which leaves you in a lonely, uncomfortable place.
Loneliness can freak you out, leave you vulnerable, jealous, critical, judgmental and feeling resistant. Loneliness will challenge your mental state and everything you’ve worked so hard for up until this point. Pile on anxiety and it only further distorts your perception and decision-making capabilities. If your emotions have been on sensory overload, ask yourself why and explore what is coming up for you.
I came across these two quotes that are transforming my ‘inner, immature and irresponsible child’ to a responsible adult. Give them a try.
- You are responsible.
“The acceptance of personal responsibility for your life is the giant step from childhood to
maturity. Prior to that decision, people criticize, complain and blame others for their problems.
After that decision, they see themselves as the primary creative forces in their own lives. Before
you take total responsibility for your life, you see yourself as a victim. Afterward, you see
yourself as a victor.” – Brian Tracy, author of “Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life”
- You are in charge.
“You are where you are and what you are because you have decided to be there. Everything
you accomplish, for the rest of your life, will be largely determined by the actions that you take,
or fail to take. You are responsible. You are in charge. You are in control. You are your own
boss. And there are no limits except the limits that you allow the outside world to place on
yourself and on your thinking.” – Brian Tracy, author of “Change Your Thinking, Change Your
If you are on an emotional roller coaster, it is important to understand that you are in control of that roller coaster. If you think your close friends and family members can read your mind and know what you want just because they have known you for so long, that is simply immature. Sometimes you need to get rid of the mental chatter that’s your ‘inner child’ wanting his/her way and become the responsible adult. This means taking responsibility and asking for what you want; ask someone in your life to share your experience and you may get what you want.
It’s easier to do nothing. It’s easier not to ask. It takes courage. You are responsible for asking for what you want. Ask and you just might receive.
Edited by Sean Paler